Thursday, August 27, 2009
Monday, August 24, 2009
Saturday, August 22, 2009
Friday, August 21, 2009
As well as my wife knows me, she can't be expected to always know when I'm feeling short changed in terms of our WLM experience. Additionally she doesn't want feel like she has to keep the fires lit under me all the time. Its not fair to her to be responsible for my motivation level and I can assure you the quickest way to throw cold water onto our WLM is to put that expectation on her.
After the last time we had hard feelings (we don't fight... We have "hard feelings") It struck me that her power doesn't come from her ability to motivate me but her ability to inspire me. If we're not on the same page emotionally, when she says "jump" I might not be so willing to say "how high" with enthusiasm.
I'm so head over heels in love with my wife that I'd be willing to do anything for her. I'm also such a lazy oaf at times that I wonder why she puts up with me.
We all crave the highs of a great "scene" where we're begging to do anything for them. I wish I could live in that moment far more than I do but, what we need is to find that place within ourselves that drives us to our good works. If I will just see her as my impedestaled goddess whether she is, or is not in a dominant mindset becomes irrelevant. "She deserves my very best" heck, its the name of my blog. So as much as she apologises for not taking the lead or somehow failing in our relationship the fault is without exception mine. If she isn't feeling impedestaled its because I haven't placed her there.
Saturday, August 15, 2009
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
One prominent theory for why we get motion sickness is that our eyes and our ears aren't synchronizing the information they are receiving. The Eustacia tubes in our ears help us balance by sensing the pull of gravity. Inside the cabin an airplane at night the world looks stationary but our ears are trying to balance us against the motion. When we rely on what we feel more than what we know we can spin out of control. JFK Jr's instruments told him he was spiraling toward the ocean but strapped into the seat of his small plane he "felt" like he was flying straight and level.