Sunday, August 30, 2009

Quick Note

Just a quick note to report that with the scale issues resolved I managed a loss of 4.6lbs.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Sexual Carrots

The old Stick or Carrot argument... Are you more motivated by the promise of reward or the threat of discipline. In the early days of our attempts at a D/s type relationship (as opposed to our current WLM) Sharon was always quick to point out that discipline was not effective because I wanted her to punish me. My retort was she needed to make sure the punishment wasn't enjoyable for me... (If you knew Sharon you'd know she is incapable of causing me any real pain.) It was a quandary that seemed to have no answer.
The solution is much simpler now that I understand my place in the relationship. Because my objective is to woo her with my good service I don't need the stick as discipline. I know how to behave. The discipline for poor performance is the removal of her affections. My service is a privilege she allows me to offer her. If my attitude turns sour she doesn't need to say a thing or take any action but the result will be the same... no affection. So once again the solution lies within myself... maintain good behaviour and attitude.
My weight loss has been an eye opener for me. Forgive me honey but I'm sure you would acknowledge that you have not done anything special to motivate me in my weight loss, and yet the weight has continued to melt away. The "motivation" has been internal. I thought you might tease me about how "I had better... If I wanted to..." etc. While I would certainly like to get those types of threats and teasing I understand that not receiving them is no excuse to slack off of my commitment to weight loss. The responsibility is mine.
Mark Redmond said when he felt a hunger pain he choose to see it as suffering for her. I've tried to adopt the same perspective. I may not be getting all the sexual carrots I wish I would but I am receiving the physical benefits of a healthier body and the imagined pleasure of suffering for her.
If I'm really good maybe she'll take up the stick and reward me with a good spanking. :)

Monday, August 24, 2009


I'm glad to have ya'll following and commenting. I'm especially pleased to have a couple of the fairer sex out there starting a dialogue with Sharon. As much as I enjoy peeking in on your conversations you may want to exchange email addresses for the "girls eyes only" private discussions. Perhaps ya'll can be even more candid if you know were not watching.

Speaking of privacy... Are any of you comfortable with friends and or family finding out about your WLM? We would be horrified if anyone found out. My jaw just about hit the floor when a friend recently quoted a line from my blog. It was a sufficiently generic phrase that I'm sure it was coincidence but it freaked me out for a split second non the less.

I mostly had to write a blog on privacy just so I could use this cartoon that really cracked me up.

Saturday, August 22, 2009

Weekly weigh-in

The numbers are irrelevant again this week as we bought a new scale to avoid the problem of last week.

According to the old scale I lost another 10.5 pounds... Not likely.

We got a benchmark with the new scale for next week's weigh-in.

Friday, August 21, 2009

Inspiration not motivation

As well as my wife knows me, she can't be expected to always know when I'm feeling short changed in terms of our WLM experience. Additionally she doesn't want feel like she has to keep the fires lit under me all the time. Its not fair to her to be responsible for my motivation level and I can assure you the quickest way to throw cold water onto our WLM is to put that expectation on her.

I used to try and rationalize the virtues of WLM to my wife in terms of being her beck-n-call boy. If only she would motivate me like some sort of professional dominatrix. What has always been a turn off to her is the notion that she take responsibility for my motivation. It reinforces the negative qualities of my personality and places the burden of success squarely on her shoulders. Great deal for me lousy deal for her. Its essentially all domination and no submission.

After the last time we had hard feelings (we don't fight... We have "hard feelings") It struck me that her power doesn't come from her ability to motivate me but her ability to inspire me. If we're not on the same page emotionally, when she says "jump" I might not be so willing to say "how high" with enthusiasm.

I'm so head over heels in love with my wife that I'd be willing to do anything for her. I'm also such a lazy oaf at times that I wonder why she puts up with me.

We all crave the highs of a great "scene" where we're begging to do anything for them. I wish I could live in that moment far more than I do but, what we need is to find that place within ourselves that drives us to our good works. If I will just see her as my impedestaled goddess whether she is, or is not in a dominant mindset becomes irrelevant. "She deserves my very best" heck, its the name of my blog. So as much as she apologises for not taking the lead or somehow failing in our relationship the fault is without exception mine. If she isn't feeling impedestaled its because I haven't placed her there.

Saturday, August 15, 2009


I did but I didn't make my weigh in goal.

The ten pound loss total last week was due to a misread on the new scale. This week I was down 4.5 pounds from the initial weigh-in which makes more sense. Divide that over two weeks and I just made it at 2.25lbs per week but with her rule that the goal is reset every week my false reading last week has caused me to fail this week. Hopefully my two pound goal will still be achievable for next week. I may need a better scale to avoid this sort of mix up again.

I guess that's the way it goes five orgasms this week was more than we could find the time for so now I'll have to abstain this week. I do hope she'll allow me to service her in spite of my predicament.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Straighten Up and Fly Right

All the credit for the inspiration of this blog goes to subservient-husband from a response to At-all-times who is once again finding his glass half empty.

One prominent theory for why we get motion sickness is that our eyes and our ears aren't synchronizing the information they are receiving. The Eustacia tubes in our ears help us balance by sensing the pull of gravity. Inside the cabin an airplane at night the world looks stationary but our ears are trying to balance us against the motion. When we rely on what we feel more than what we know we can spin out of control. JFK Jr's instruments told him he was spiraling toward the ocean but strapped into the seat of his small plane he "felt" like he was flying straight and level.

What the heck has this got to do with WLM? Subservient-Husband calls it "trust your instruments". When it seems like your WLM is off the rails fall back on your instruments. If you are staying a true course you can trust that you'll come out the other side.

In my WLM I have a commitment from my wife that she will take the lead, but as with any real marriage the wife led dynamic isn't always at the forefront. Sometimes it seems like it doesn't exist at all. At those times I could get discouraged and slack off which would quickly become a self fulfilling prophecy.

On the other hand I can fall back on the things I know will foster a better WLM dynamic. I know that if I put extra effort into worshipping her like she deserves she will feel more impedestaled and empowered, also a self fulfilling prophecy.

Sunday, August 9, 2009

A good start

I had my first weigh in and lo and behold I'm down 10 pounds. I figured the first week would be the easiest but I never expected to lose 10 pounds in the first week alone. The real commitment starts this week to see continued results.

Monday, August 3, 2009

A pound of flesh (or two)

Call me Antonio... Shylock has loaned me my sex and demands two pounds of flesh.
I have stepped onto the scale and committed to a healthier future. First weigh in with consequences will be this Saturday. Wish me luck.